We Are What We Think | Self-Knowledge

We Are What We Think | Self-Knowledge

“We are what we think. All that we are arises with our thoughts. With our thoughts, we make the world.” – Buddha

Self-fulfillment is powerful. Buddha realized that and lived accordingly. We can do that too. We can think better of our lives. We can adjust our inner attitude. We can talk better to ourselves, lifting us up and we can walk our talk.

I notice that this saying of Buddha is true.

Are you searching for ways to improve your personal situation? Are you curious how to change your mind? Do you have the impression to fall back to bad habits every once in a while?

I can relate to that. I want to have trusting relationships and a large family, strong friendships with great friends, a reliable and amazing income stream, work that fulfills me and plenty of time.

Brooke Castillo came up with a model explaining how we achieve our results. How ever our results look like.

Our THOUGHTS create our FEELINGS which drive our ACTIONS which create our RESULTS. – Brooke Castillo

Brooke suggests that our mind either preps us or pulls us down. If we can get a hold of what our mind is thinking, we can understand our life circumstances better.

With a better understanding of ourselves and with clearness on our values and personal aspirations or goals, we can align our thoughts. We can change our mind.

Understand your self. Get a hold of your WHY. – Change your thoughts first, then change your actions.

There are some days though, when my thoughts pull me down to the ground. I feel sad, depressed and absolutely unsuccessful. During these times, I seem to be very far away from achieving my goals. My thoughts circle around in my head.

My mind imagines, that I am falling onto a chute. There is no escape then! My thoughts push me down. My thoughts and I are sliding down a huge downward spiral. As my thoughts pick up speed, I do too. Together we are racing to the bottom. Yet, I cannot see the end.

In those moments calm breathing slows me down. I breathe in and out. I notice how the air tickles the small hair on the top of my lip. Concentrating on breathing helps me slowing my thoughts, relaxing my mind, creating a new picture. The downward spiral is gone. Puff.

Quickly I feel better. I imagine myself in better times. I am successful in my job. I sit with people I like. We are laughing. In my imagination we have happy faces. Our eyes sparkle serenity. I feel good. I think better thoughts.

It is normal to have negative, disturbing thoughts. They will come our way every once in a while. It is at us to give these thoughts some space and behave mindful. Just try not to hop on the downward spiral and shoot down the chute.

Instead you could hack your own mind. Pull a trick on it. I do it this way: Pull up your eyebrows and try to be angry. It just doesn’t work. Then laugh or at least grin for 90 seconds. Laughing, even though you actually don’t feel like it, sends signals to your brain. The brain thinks that you are happy and acts accordingly. The hard drive is cleared again.

Thoughts are strong. They can either prevent our doings and set us up with procrastination or they get and keep us going pursuing our personal goals and dreams.

Are you experienced in tracking your thoughts and changing your mind successfully? How do you do it? How do you hack your brain?

Psst, here’s your sign!

Psst, here’s your sign!

Often I wonder how to recognize the signs that send me into the right direction. Yesterday I heard somebody say, “Psst, here’s your sign. Move to the left. Just a few steps. Look down. There it is.” Nothing big. Just a nice little sign, keeping me on track.

Many people walk through life with their eyes wide open, staring into the sky and waiting for the big signs to turn up. Seemingly, no sign comes. They lose hope and fright crawls in.   It is easy to feel alone. It easy to give up. It is easy to stop searching.

What happens when you stop searching?

Self-respect goes down. Happiness diminishes. Emotions tend to weigh heavy pulling us down. I’ve been there too. Living life seems reduced to a rat race. Breathing is shallow. Sighing becomes normal. Shoulders sink in. Talk reflects negative acceptance of day-to-day life.

Some times life seems to be like a slippery slope. One day your up and striving and next you trip and slip down the slope.

What can we do to prevent slipping down?

Look at the children! How do children play? How do they move? What language do they use? Where do they get their language from? Who are their role models? What are they looking at? How are their senses seeing, hearing, touching, tasting and smelling involved? How are they moving around? Which emotions are moving them? What facial expressions can you see? How are they breathing? How does their breathing alter? How long are they sad? How do they switch from happiness to sadness and back again?

What to do with this knowledge?

I try to use it. I try to get better every day. Whenever I slip now, I try hard to get back up quick. I brush my pants off, just as if I had fell into dust, and change my state. I think of something fun to do or focus on my current goal. Changing my state seems to be more difficult now than when I was a child. I don’t know why that is. Perhaps I’m thinking too much. As a child I was more into doing.

Recently I began jumping around again (literally), seemingly out of nothing. Jumping like a child helps me change my state directly. After having jumped I always have to laugh or at least smile intensely. I even jump in front of my colleagues. That seems so unconventional crazy that it is a lot of fun.

Ao just push the pain away?

Don’t go through life avoiding pain. As Les Brown put’s it, all of us have storms inside of us. These storms don’t necessarily show, but they occur every once in a while. We all have problems and with them comes fear. Fear often leads to inner confusion. Unfortunately, that confusion holds us back. In those moments, just tell yourself to shut up. Make a conscious decision. Stick to your decision. Create your own disciplines that match your decision. A few disciplines practiced every day, lead to success.

So what about the signs?

It is easy to search and it is easy not to search for life improvements. It is easy to get overwhelmed and it is easy to make decisions. We always make decisions. We always pass by signs. If we lose our focus, we surely do not recognize our signs. Staying in focus, staying with an open and thankful mind helps us, to use all of our senses. Our senses support our emotions and when we are feeling right, we can see the signs. Your sign might just be the affirmation you have been waiting for. Your sign can be an interaction with another person, a thing, a ray of light, a breeze, a sound, a smell, a taste, a word, a feeling. Be open and trust yourself. Search and you will find.