Kick off Group Dynamics | Strengthening Groups

Kick off Group Dynamics | Strengthening Groups

You have a bunch of youth gathering together to form a new group? You’re looking for ideas how to motivate them? Perhaps this idea for one of the first meetings inspires you and your group.

A Thrill of Anticipation
Have them sit together in a circle and invite them to do something special. Create a thrill of anticipation. Dim the light or use the nightfall. Light some candles creating a middle of your circle. Hand out some sparklers, one to each member of your group. Let them wonder what might happen next.

Tempt Them With Enthusiasm
Calm your group down and give them a speech of inspiration. A speech that they will not forget. Motivate them with every word you say. Tempt them with your enthusiasm to discover themselves as a group and as individuals.

Speak about dreaming, seeing and doing! Address your group directly.

A New Stage of Life
Together we set out into a new stage of your life. Have mutual trust in each other. Become team players. Focus on your strengths within your group. Put your group first. Understand that life is about we. Soon you will enjoy new levels of perhaps unseen strengths within your group. Your group will become your circle of friends. Together you can come up with ideas you might never tackle alone. Strengthening each other, your ideas will easily grow. Together you can take massive action and achieve what you set out for.

Be Hopeful
Imagine freedom for all of humanity. Have a mission. Speak up when you notice injustice. Believe in freedom, trust and solidarity. If applicable, resist injustice. Practice civil courage. Be honest, be wise and act the way you talk. Stand together in hope.

Be Peaceful
Be open to the people around you. Grow your network of friends. Be empathetic. Be there. Search and discover truth. Get to the bottom of things and opinions. Develop your own point of view. Develop a stance with your group. Find peaceful ways to get to sound agreements. Be reliable.

Be Truthful
Discover and feel your new community. Need each other. Be considerate. Be vigilant.

Agree upon rules for your group and stick to them. Make them real. And THEN, dream big. Don’t hold yourself back with ifs and how tos. Dream of activities, places to travel to and people to meet. See yourself doing it. Describe what you see. Be different by choice. Go backwards. Take your achievement and think of necessary steps that led you there. Create a game plan. Stick your heads together. Be bold and do it.

The promise is there: Your success will come!

Next, invite two members of your group to lighten their sparklers. Ask them to pass on the fire, by connecting there sparkler with the direct neighbor. Let the sparkle/the fire be passed on throughout the group. When all are lit, repeat the promise: Our success will come!

Self-Confidence | Success Leaves Clues

Self-Confidence | Success Leaves Clues

Are you usually struggling to vacuum your apartment or cleaning the windows? These tasks just slip away from me during normal weeks. Then there are these other weeks, when suddenly cleaning the apartment meticulously becomes easy.

These are the weeks, when I am focussing on changing my behavior. When I am focussing on building stronger self-confidence. When I am dreaming of new goals and starting to see them. When I start to head towards them.

Last night, I scrubbed my patio.

Procrastination is one of the largest hurdles I set in my path towards my goals. These hurdles actually keep my self-confidence from growing too. Thinking about that, I wonder why I set these hurdles up in the first place.

Perfectionism also plays an important role in hindering growing my self-confidence and thus reaching my goals. And again it is me, that keeps on holding myself back, with the thought that one day, I’ll be better. Since better is seldom enough, I get sidetracked.

I got sidetracked. I postponed my blog for several months now. – What am I afraid of?

Les Brown says, fear is the greatest hindering. We are afraid of failing. We are afraid of not being appreciated by our peers, by other people. He also says, that it is not easy to push through. Push yourself through the fear. Imagine your fear being a cloud. You cannot see the other side. You cannot see the sun shine. If you want to reach the other side, just take one step at the time.

Recently I heard Jamie Masters say, if you found the right way, but choose to sit on it, others will run you over. So true.

Both, Les and Jamie, give us clues how to act. Note, they don`t suggest to react to the situation we maneuvered into. They say, have the best strategy, create a roadmap and follow it. Keep adjusting it, as you move on, but move. One step at the time.

Moving prevents procrastination. Moving also prevents perfectionism. Moving prevents fear from growing. It actually can reduce fear. Moving is motion. As Tony Robbins says, motions are necessary to create emotions. I need good emotions to fuel my motor. They get me going on my path. Positive emotions let me get creative when hurdles lay on my way. And then, creativity boosts my self-confidence.

Envisioning my goals, actually seeing them, nearly feeling the state that they create for me,  really boosts my energy and strengthens my self-confidence.

The clue is to know your own goals. To see them reached and to imagine how great it feels, when they are won. Get the right strategy and cling to it. Maneuver and adjust your inner compass. Be relentless. Be creative. Be confident. Strive!