Self-Encouragement | Surmount Inner Barricades

Self-Encouragement | Surmount Inner Barricades

Les Brown tells me every morning, that changing my mind is not easy, but it’s necessary. It has become a ritual to listen to this motivation vid.

Les tells me, that there is nothing as powerful as a changed mind. If you don’t change your mind, the same experience will perpetuate itself over and over again. If you want something out of life. If there’s some goal you want to reach, changing your behavior, overcoming negative habits is challenging, it’s hard!

I agree completely. It is hard to change my mind.

I know my goal: With this blog I want to spread knowledge on how to get peace, how to deepen the experience of perfect peace and how to make best peace experiences your routine.

During the past weeks my experiences have perpetuated themselves over and over again. I experience pain by not continuing ideas at Peace Habits, by pushing them forward to tomorrow.

My head is busy all the time.

Especially at the moment, when I sit down to blog, my distractions are immense: I could do this, and this, and this and this. It seemed a bit, that I lost my focus.

Luckily I find inspiration through short videos on motivation and kind people such as Tony Robbins. His perspectives on life have also become part of my morning routine. Tony says, the only thing that is going to make you happy, is to step up, raise your standard, discover what you are capable of and feel the incredible power of pushing through whatever is holding you back. That way you can get to the other side of more of your true self.

I can relate to that. Some weeks ago, I hired a personal coach. With him I tackle my body fat and build up strong muscles. He supports me in pushing through whatever is holding me back. I noticed that it is often not my muscles that are holding me back. It is my brain. The brain signalizes, it’s enough. But pushing past that signal gives me a wonderful feeling. I strive.

At first I thought, with him I will become slimmer and gain strength for my body. It is slightly different though. On top of loosing body fat and gaining strength, I tackle will power. Together with him, I push through whatever is holding me back and by pushing through that, I often get to better results. My coach does not do it for me. He pushes me verbally. He demands a bit more. Trying harder has become a game. It has become fun!

Understanding the importance of pushing through difficulties prompts many rituals of my daily life. As a result, my daily routine is changing.

Finishing up with the great teacher Les, when you step into your fears, something is happening for you. Face defeat again and again. Know what you want! Harness your will. The human spirit is powerful. You are unstoppable. Live your life with passion. Push your self! Sell your self. Convince you.

What’s your way of selling yourself? What do you tell yourself to push through fear and surmount your barricades? Write your answers down below, I’d be glad to learn from you.

Psst, here’s your sign!

Psst, here’s your sign!

Often I wonder how to recognize the signs that send me into the right direction. Yesterday I heard somebody say, “Psst, here’s your sign. Move to the left. Just a few steps. Look down. There it is.” Nothing big. Just a nice little sign, keeping me on track.

Many people walk through life with their eyes wide open, staring into the sky and waiting for the big signs to turn up. Seemingly, no sign comes. They lose hope and fright crawls in.   It is easy to feel alone. It easy to give up. It is easy to stop searching.

What happens when you stop searching?

Self-respect goes down. Happiness diminishes. Emotions tend to weigh heavy pulling us down. I’ve been there too. Living life seems reduced to a rat race. Breathing is shallow. Sighing becomes normal. Shoulders sink in. Talk reflects negative acceptance of day-to-day life.

Some times life seems to be like a slippery slope. One day your up and striving and next you trip and slip down the slope.

What can we do to prevent slipping down?

Look at the children! How do children play? How do they move? What language do they use? Where do they get their language from? Who are their role models? What are they looking at? How are their senses seeing, hearing, touching, tasting and smelling involved? How are they moving around? Which emotions are moving them? What facial expressions can you see? How are they breathing? How does their breathing alter? How long are they sad? How do they switch from happiness to sadness and back again?

What to do with this knowledge?

I try to use it. I try to get better every day. Whenever I slip now, I try hard to get back up quick. I brush my pants off, just as if I had fell into dust, and change my state. I think of something fun to do or focus on my current goal. Changing my state seems to be more difficult now than when I was a child. I don’t know why that is. Perhaps I’m thinking too much. As a child I was more into doing.

Recently I began jumping around again (literally), seemingly out of nothing. Jumping like a child helps me change my state directly. After having jumped I always have to laugh or at least smile intensely. I even jump in front of my colleagues. That seems so unconventional crazy that it is a lot of fun.

Ao just push the pain away?

Don’t go through life avoiding pain. As Les Brown put’s it, all of us have storms inside of us. These storms don’t necessarily show, but they occur every once in a while. We all have problems and with them comes fear. Fear often leads to inner confusion. Unfortunately, that confusion holds us back. In those moments, just tell yourself to shut up. Make a conscious decision. Stick to your decision. Create your own disciplines that match your decision. A few disciplines practiced every day, lead to success.

So what about the signs?

It is easy to search and it is easy not to search for life improvements. It is easy to get overwhelmed and it is easy to make decisions. We always make decisions. We always pass by signs. If we lose our focus, we surely do not recognize our signs. Staying in focus, staying with an open and thankful mind helps us, to use all of our senses. Our senses support our emotions and when we are feeling right, we can see the signs. Your sign might just be the affirmation you have been waiting for. Your sign can be an interaction with another person, a thing, a ray of light, a breeze, a sound, a smell, a taste, a word, a feeling. Be open and trust yourself. Search and you will find.

 

 

Self-Confidence | Success Leaves Clues

Self-Confidence | Success Leaves Clues

Are you usually struggling to vacuum your apartment or cleaning the windows? These tasks just slip away from me during normal weeks. Then there are these other weeks, when suddenly cleaning the apartment meticulously becomes easy.

These are the weeks, when I am focussing on changing my behavior. When I am focussing on building stronger self-confidence. When I am dreaming of new goals and starting to see them. When I start to head towards them.

Last night, I scrubbed my patio.

Procrastination is one of the largest hurdles I set in my path towards my goals. These hurdles actually keep my self-confidence from growing too. Thinking about that, I wonder why I set these hurdles up in the first place.

Perfectionism also plays an important role in hindering growing my self-confidence and thus reaching my goals. And again it is me, that keeps on holding myself back, with the thought that one day, I’ll be better. Since better is seldom enough, I get sidetracked.

I got sidetracked. I postponed my blog for several months now. – What am I afraid of?

Les Brown says, fear is the greatest hindering. We are afraid of failing. We are afraid of not being appreciated by our peers, by other people. He also says, that it is not easy to push through. Push yourself through the fear. Imagine your fear being a cloud. You cannot see the other side. You cannot see the sun shine. If you want to reach the other side, just take one step at the time.

Recently I heard Jamie Masters say, if you found the right way, but choose to sit on it, others will run you over. So true.

Both, Les and Jamie, give us clues how to act. Note, they don`t suggest to react to the situation we maneuvered into. They say, have the best strategy, create a roadmap and follow it. Keep adjusting it, as you move on, but move. One step at the time.

Moving prevents procrastination. Moving also prevents perfectionism. Moving prevents fear from growing. It actually can reduce fear. Moving is motion. As Tony Robbins says, motions are necessary to create emotions. I need good emotions to fuel my motor. They get me going on my path. Positive emotions let me get creative when hurdles lay on my way. And then, creativity boosts my self-confidence.

Envisioning my goals, actually seeing them, nearly feeling the state that they create for me,  really boosts my energy and strengthens my self-confidence.

The clue is to know your own goals. To see them reached and to imagine how great it feels, when they are won. Get the right strategy and cling to it. Maneuver and adjust your inner compass. Be relentless. Be creative. Be confident. Strive!