28 Quotes on Good Life | Challenge

28 Quotes on Good Life | Challenge

Believing that the wish to live a good life is necessary to utilize Peace Habits in your own life, I invite you to watch Jonathan Fields’ interviews at Good Life Project. He has interviewed many purpose-driven entrepreneurs, thought-leaders, world-shakers and artists exploring what it means to live a good life. Here are some of the statements that his friends shared.

Be Intentional

You get to decide what is good for you. – Seth Godin

Find your calling, know it and get to do it. – Vani Hari

Be deliberate the way you live your life. – A.J. & Melissa Leon

When things will be different, because you are being intentional. – Scott Dinsmore

Flourishing life where you feel at peace with your past, optimistic about your future and at the moment do the best you can be, present and happy. Be aligned with who you are. – Emiliya Zhlvotoskaya.

Ease

When I lay my head down at night and feel peaceful. – Michael Port

Ease, abundance and amusement. – Erin Weed

Stretch

Individual and together – have a happy life. – Brad Feld

To always be great. To always be learning. To always be stretching. – Karen Salmansohn

Be aware of your life, everything in it and everything that is important. – Wokie Nwabueze

Celebrate

Don’t take things too seriously. Celebrate. – Marie Forleo

Love

Integration ⎼ integrating the wholeness of who we are. – Jerry Colonna

Living with passion. – Vernon Bush

Love. – Danielle LaPorte

Gratitude. – Brené Brown

Love and connection. – Patricia Moreno

Be of Service

A life of heartfelt connection, for contribution and service. – Tami Simon

Nothing better than helping fellow human beings. ⎼ It makes everything worthwhile. – Leo Babauta

Connecting with one person and making the difference for her or him. – Helene Godin

Be Brave

Live with bravery. Live with a sense of not giving up. – Sakyong Mipham Rinpoche

Be the best version of myself ever single day. – Lewis Howes

The braver I get and the more I’m willing to live my life out of the box, the better my life gets. – Lissa Rankin

The extend in which I can stay true to myself, live an authentic life, make the work that I want to make in ways that feel good to me. – Lisa Congdon

Wake up in the morning and do something that I find meaningful. Something that I inherently enjoy. Something that I think, that makes a contribution to the world in a tiny way. – Dan Pink

Be Happy

Get the time doing the things that make you happy. – Kate Northrup

You Are Enough

Be happy with what you have, knowing that it’s enough, knowing that you’re enough. Feeling that sense of connection to source and self. – Kris Can

Know that you are perfectly fine. Like really. And that you will become who you are meant to be. – Rhonda Britten

Being exactly who I am and being honest about it. Don’t apologize. Maybe along the way, I have helped a few people feel the same way. – Erika Napoletano

Your Challenge
The challenge is, finding out what your good life’s about! Live your life with passion and an idea where to you are heading.

So, what is your good life?

Being True to Yourself | Self-Motivation

Being True to Yourself | Self-Motivation

Do you wonder what let’s you rise in the early morning hours? From where you could get the necessary energy to get out of your bed? Are you experienced in postponing your goals?

I surely am.

Here’s my approach for the next 30 days: I will plan my mornings each evening ahead of time. I focus on opportunities. I want to get a head start on them!

The Idea
The goal is to get up and have a great start into the day. Especially, starting each day with a strengthening morning ritual. I want to gather plenty of energy that carries me through my day. I imagine that I gain this positive energy after completing a blog post each morning. Having finished an important task, I’ll be successful during the rest of the day as well.

Low Effort?
I heard Les Brown ask ‘What are you thinking about, when your effort is low?’

I’m surely not thinking of success or opportunity then. During those moments I rather think of postponing, because that is easy to do. With a rational mind I agree to what Jim Rohn said: ‘It’s easy to do it and it’s easy not do it.‘ Furthermore, ‘If we choose the easy way, our life will be hard.’ If we act and get through our fears, we will grow and strive.

Thought Process
In this sense, being true to myself means, getting up in the early mornings, getting used to my strengthening new rituals.

That were my thoughts last night. I still stick to them.

The Reality!
This morning though, my normal morning habits fell into place: I got up one hour later than imagined, took a shower, brewed a cup of coffee, had it with delight and practiced a 18 minutes meditation. I got dressed and here I am sitting and typing.

I understand now, that it takes greater effort to swap existing rituals against new rituals. The next milestone to reach is, enabling the growth of the new ritual into an unbreakable habit.

Outside Motivation
Just 24 days ago, I began meditating with the support of Insight Timer. At first, I used this app only as a reminder during my meditations, hearing the ringing of the sound bowl. Soon the Insight Timer became more stimulating.

Rewarding Success
I like that it rewards my success with a star (for meditating 10 consecutive days). After every meditation it asks me how I feel and logs my experiences. I look at pictures of other people who are meditating ‘with me‘. Some faces are there regularly with me. What I like best about the app, it makes it easy for me, to stick to my meditation. I connected the picture and ringing of the sound bowl to a pleasant feeling.

Something like that would be great for creating new habits. Who has programmed an app like that?

One week later. The blog post isn’t postet yet. Obviously, my approach is not working. There seems to be no breakthrough in sight. So what is it, that does support a breakthrough in our life?

The Tony Robbins Breakthrough Method
Tony focusses on achieving our targets by revealing our human needs. He noticed that most of us stick to our problems, because we meet our needs that way. He differentiates problems into 2 categories: The quality problems, involving risky forward thinking and decision-making that take us to another level in our life and the safe problems, that are lingering issues which lie in our control. The safe problems seem safe because they seemingly protect us from our fear that if we try and fail, we won’t be enough and won’t be loved. Tony points out that safe problems often come into play, when we come up with quality problems, just like adding a new habit into our life. Thus, instead of solving the quality problem, our brain makes us aware of our safe problems and keeps us there. Our brain loves routine and adding a new habit is not routine.

If we are holding on to a low-quality problem, Tony suggests to ask and answer the following questions.

(1) What is the problem costing me and the people around me?
(2) Does it help me give to others or does it steal attention and emotion from my loved ones?

He then strongly suggests to look into the situation of how our life could be like, if the problem disappeared.
(1) What would be next for me?
(2) Who could I serve?
(3) Who would be happier?
(4) Whose life would be changed to see me happy and making progress?

The next step is to decide on one way that we are going to block ourselves from indulging in a low-quality problem this week. We need to think of one way, that we will be saying „NO“ to that problem. Tony emphasis to commit to this sought out change directly.

The Brooke Castillo Do-Goals
Brooke acknowledges that our brain comes up with all possible ways to hinder us changing our habits. When changing our status quo emotions and thoughts will come up. She says, that is just part of the process. We shall not be irritated when fear, doubt, disbelief or shame come to our mind. It will get even worse, when we tell us phrases such as, …

I don’t know.
I’m not sure.
I’m confused.
Maybe this isn’t the right thing for me.
Maybe I should wait a while.
Maybe I should change my mind.

From her experience, „I don’t know“ is the worst of all. This thought blocks everything very efficiently.

Brooke suggests to decide on do-goals, which are achievable goals that get us going intensively. She’s sure, the resulting motivation level will go through the roof. Here’s the plan:

(1) Write down 25 things you really want and already have. Want them from abundance. Brooke explains that we can trick our mind. We just need to continuously tell us, what we really want and have achieved already and then squeeze in one new goal. Fit it in between goals that have been achieved already.
(2) Get specific and come up with all possible details. Write them all down. It is important to get it out of our brain and onto paper. The more specific the better, but we shall not include the how! – Our brains will want to knock us down. Our brains will try hard to keep us within our comfort zone.
(3) Read it every single day.
(4) As soon as the negative emotions and thoughts come up, write them all down too. Get them out of the head and then head to a place in your mind, where the new goal has been completed already.
(5) We shall imagine a state in which we could not fail. When you’re there, write down all what you could do, understanding that failing is not an option. Evaluate, address, pay attention and then go right past your negative thoughts and feelings.
(6) Write your action plan backwards! Remember your state of abundance and think of the necessary steps you need to do. Break the goals down into doable smaller steps. That way, Brooke points out, we give ourselves a lot of wisdom. It is possible to figure every thing out. We just need to try and develop our muscles.
(7) Then commit to your do-goal. The question we need to answer for this is, do we really want to do it? If so, do it 200 times this year. Push it! Be committed!

Both, Tony and Brooke, emphasis that commitment is key. They offer questions to ask and go deeper to the root causes. I suppose digging deep to the root is like digging in my garden. After only little digging, I hit marl-stone and going deeper becomes difficult. There are ways to dig deeper though. Strong muscles are part of that, but so is wit. As I understand Tony and Brooke, it is wit that brings us closer to achieving our goals. The muscles are important, but will be trained along the way. I know that for sure, because no stone has prevented me from planting flowers in my blooming garden.

I will try both methods, Tony’s and Brooke’s, and keep you updated, which works best for me. If it works out well, my blog posts will show up more frequently. Now that would be great!

What about you? Do you have methods that work well for you? What do you suggest? Please leave your ideas or questions below. I’d like to learn from your experiences too. Striving to get better every day!

Self-Confidence | Success Leaves Clues

Self-Confidence | Success Leaves Clues

Are you usually struggling to vacuum your apartment or cleaning the windows? These tasks just slip away from me during normal weeks. Then there are these other weeks, when suddenly cleaning the apartment meticulously becomes easy.

These are the weeks, when I am focussing on changing my behavior. When I am focussing on building stronger self-confidence. When I am dreaming of new goals and starting to see them. When I start to head towards them.

Last night, I scrubbed my patio.

Procrastination is one of the largest hurdles I set in my path towards my goals. These hurdles actually keep my self-confidence from growing too. Thinking about that, I wonder why I set these hurdles up in the first place.

Perfectionism also plays an important role in hindering growing my self-confidence and thus reaching my goals. And again it is me, that keeps on holding myself back, with the thought that one day, I’ll be better. Since better is seldom enough, I get sidetracked.

I got sidetracked. I postponed my blog for several months now. – What am I afraid of?

Les Brown says, fear is the greatest hindering. We are afraid of failing. We are afraid of not being appreciated by our peers, by other people. He also says, that it is not easy to push through. Push yourself through the fear. Imagine your fear being a cloud. You cannot see the other side. You cannot see the sun shine. If you want to reach the other side, just take one step at the time.

Recently I heard Jamie Masters say, if you found the right way, but choose to sit on it, others will run you over. So true.

Both, Les and Jamie, give us clues how to act. Note, they don`t suggest to react to the situation we maneuvered into. They say, have the best strategy, create a roadmap and follow it. Keep adjusting it, as you move on, but move. One step at the time.

Moving prevents procrastination. Moving also prevents perfectionism. Moving prevents fear from growing. It actually can reduce fear. Moving is motion. As Tony Robbins says, motions are necessary to create emotions. I need good emotions to fuel my motor. They get me going on my path. Positive emotions let me get creative when hurdles lay on my way. And then, creativity boosts my self-confidence.

Envisioning my goals, actually seeing them, nearly feeling the state that they create for me,  really boosts my energy and strengthens my self-confidence.

The clue is to know your own goals. To see them reached and to imagine how great it feels, when they are won. Get the right strategy and cling to it. Maneuver and adjust your inner compass. Be relentless. Be creative. Be confident. Strive!

 

Self-Encouragement | The Secret of Great Creative People

Self-Encouragement | The Secret of Great Creative People

You ever wondered how great people come up with so many fantastic questions? You are interested to learn how to develop questions naturally? – This approach might be just right for you.

Leave your electronic devices at home, go outside and breathe fresh air. Walk in silence and absorb what is happening around you. Breathe. Relax. Let your thoughts run free.

Watch your steps. What does the pavement look like? How does it feel to walk on it? Are you walking the streets of your neighborhood? What kinds of houses are there in your neighborhood? Do you like their architecture? What do you like best? Do you want to live there? Can you imagine yourself living in a different place?

How are the windows and windowsills decorated? Can you look through the windows that you are walking past? What are the ceilings inside like? What kind of paint did the residents choose? Do you like their lamps? Would you choose a lamp like that? What kind of lamps do you like? Which ones would you like to buy? Where could you buy them? What do they cost? How do your favorite lamps match with your dream apartment? What kind of furniture do you need for your dream apartment or is it a house that you are dreaming of?

Do you like the neighborhood that you are passing through? Are there enough parking spaces there? Where would you like to park your car? Do you want to have a car? Do you have a car and want to change it? What car models are parked there? Which one do you like? Why do you like it? What do you want to transport with it? Are you into car sharing instead? Is there a car sharing station near by?

What kind of stores have you seen while walking around? What stores are important to you? Do you need them close to your home? Do you prefer to drive to a large shopping center or do you want to support small stores in the neighborhood?

Who are you passing by outside? Who is outside for fresh air? Is the air fresh? Whom do you want to meet? Is your neighborhood mixed? Is every person welcome? Are old people sitting on benches, chatting with each other (or is it too cold to sit outside where you are walking)?

“Curiosity about life in all of its aspects, I think, is still the secret of great creative people” – Leo Burnett

Train yourself to ask questions. Walk around. Be open-minded and think of as many questions as you can. Be calm and absorb your surroundings. Become inspired to ask, ask, ask.